It is said,
Baat toh sahi hai boss!
Since the day you entered law school like Shahrukh Khan in Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham, deep down you knew you would have to make contacts like a social animal. You’ll have to talk to everyone about everything. Sitting and sleeping in your little shell isn’t gonna work out this time.
Let me tell you what law school is:
- 1 cup of academics
- 3 cups of writing skills
- 3 cups of speaking skills
- 4 cups of analytical and critical skills
- 4 cups mooting
- 2 cups internal committees
- 100 cups of making contacts
So, it can be rightly said that speaking, mooting, taking part in committees, and making contacts form the major part of law school. Now, for an introvert, this will be your version of agni pariksha. Don’t you worry, we’ve got your back.
Imagine you and your friend entering college with utmost excitement and enthusiasm. You are an introvert who’d rather be all by yourself instead of reaching out to people. Your friend, on the other hand, is a budding social butterfly. You start this journey together. When the day comes to choose the right partner for moot competitions, debates, research papers, or even assistance, who do you think will have better opportunities, choices, or leads? Obvio, your friend. Because, they’re ready to outshine everybody by making friends and contacts with people in and outside your batch, while you have been acting as an ‘outcast’ since day one.
Communication in law school is like a vaccine.
It not only improves your present status but also makes you better for the future. Law school is the best place to shine at this godly skill as here you will see people communicating with each other at every step. You’ll get a new opportunity every moment to make your communication skills better in the form of interacting with professors and seniors or preparing for debates to getting guidance for your moot court competitions. With a lack of communication skills, you’ll definitely have some trouble nailing it.
The best judges and lawyers have one thing in common, i.e., they’re good at communicating and, hence, are where they are.
There is a famous saying: “In the middle of difficulty lies an opportunity”. If you find it difficult to talk to and make contacts with people, why not use it as an opportunity? Reach out to people, talk to them, know their stories. Trust me when I say you won’t regret it.
I understand the pressure you feel while picking up calls or being at a social event. I understand that you’re better off not replying to people for weeks at a stretch. Again, trust me when I say what Eminem said in ‘Love the way you lie’- “You’re the same as me.”
Over time, one thing that I’ve understood the hard way is that some basic communication skills are essential for you to do wonders in law school. Nobody is expecting you to give it your all and constantly talk to people but yes, you need to give some time for incorporating and making relations with people.
If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering why this is even important. This is important so that you land upon an equal level playing ground with all the other extroverts of your college. Everything in your law school life is highly dependent on how you manage your social skills. At some point in your life, you’ll understand its importance, and I hope it’s not too late.
Here are some ways to develop your social skills:
- Introverts, it’s time to become ambiverts. Not too social, not too isolated. Find a common place between them and open up your arms for opportunities of a lifetime.
- Start simple, reply to people on social networking sites within a set time limit (Ignore the creeps, please.)
- As much as you resent picking up calls or talking to people on video calls, remember about building a future by doing these simple tasks and pick up the damn phone.
- Think of how to start a conversation with someone. If it’s with a senior, initially introduce yourself with all due respect. Then, move forward with the issues or queries you have. Give it time before starting an informal conversation.
- If you need to talk to a batchmate of yours, you can start by simply replying to their stories or a basic “hi” works. You can then move forward by talking about movies, references, and sending memes. Memes are an amazing conversation starter, take it from a pro (wink, wink).
- The most important thing is to know that it’ll be okay. You don’t need to pressurize yourself if someone ghosts you. Everybody has rough days, and these too shall pass, don’t keep texting or calling someone with no apparent reason unless they’re your friends. That’s creepy. Smile and do what you gotta do.
This is me. But sit down and relax, just work on your communication skills and don’t worry, everything’s gonna turn out perfectly fine.